Susan Finazzo: The Silent Trauma

What Susan once labeled as a “hard birth” slowly revealed itself as something far more serious. This story follows her journey from silence and confusion to understanding the systemic failures that leave so many women carrying invisible wounds.

Bio

Susan Barrett Finazzo is a trauma-informed childbirth educator, virtual doula, faith-based counselor, and founder of My Baby Lady, Inc., a nonprofit dedicated to rewriting the birth story for America’s parents — one Zoom room, one conversation, one prepared family at a time.

For more than a decade, Susan has supported parents through pregnancy, birth, and postpartum with a calm presence, compassionate teaching style, and the kind of practical wisdom that only comes from witnessing birth in all its beauty and all its brutality. Her work was born out of her own deeply traumatic birth experiences — including delivering a 13-lb baby — and the moment she realized she was called to become the educator she never had.

Today, she blends evidence-based education, trauma-informed advocacy, and spiritual grounding to help parents enter birth with confidence instead of fear. She’s the creator of Ready, Set, Baby! — a free community presentation and a signature 3-part childbirth education masterclass — and the facilitator of Parent Wellness Circles, supporting emotional, mental, spiritual, and relational wellness for parents and caregivers.

Susan also provides faith-based counseling through Compassion Christian Counseling, where she specializes in supporting single mothers, blended families, parents navigating trauma, and couples adjusting to life with a new baby. She is known for her warmth, humor, ability to hold sacred space, and her gift for helping people feel seen — often within minutes.

Her nonprofit, My Baby Lady, is expanding into a national model of virtual support with the upcoming release of two books:

  • Book 1: My Baby Lady: Rewriting the Birth Story for America’s Parents — Exposing the Most Dangerous Place to Give Birth. A powerful mix of memoir, birth stories, data, and a call to action to fix the U.S. maternal health crisis.
  • Book 2: The Rise of the Virtual Doula — A Guide to Compassionate Virtual Doula Support.

Based on her 12-week certification curriculum, designed to train doulas nationwide in evidence-based, trauma-informed virtual care.

As a speaker and podcast guest, Susan brings storytelling, heart, lived experience, and straight-to-the-point education. She talks openly about birth trauma, maternal mental health, faith and healing, breaking generational cycles, and how we can radically change outcomes with better communication, preparation, and support.

Her mission is simple:

Help parents feel prepared, supported, and empowered — and build a world where birth trauma is the exception, not the expectation.

Susan lives in Florida with her husband, Paul, their pets, Scotch, Bailey, Annie and Buddy.

Topics

  • Birth trauma and its long-term effects
  • Loss of agency during medical procedures
  • Trauma without language or validation
  • Parenting through unresolved fear
  • The role of education in childbirth
  • Systemic failures in maternal care
  • Why women don’t talk about birth trauma
  • Reclaiming power after medical trauma
  • Supporting women through informed choice
  • Turning personal trauma into advocacy

Guiding Questions

  • How did you originally describe your birth experience—and how has that changed?
  • What made you realize years later that your childbirth was traumatic?
  • How did the lack of information and consent affect you emotionally?
  • What impact did that experience have on your parenting?
  • Why do you think so many women minimize or silence their birth trauma?
  • What role does education play in preventing traumatic birth experiences?
  • How did becoming a doula change how you viewed your own story?
  • What patterns do you see in women who come to you after traumatic births?
  • Why is the U.S. maternal care system failing so many women?
  • What does healing look like when the trauma was systemic, not personal?

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